So, you thought you were done? Part 2
If you have not read the comments written in reply to my last post, please do. They were right on target and really got me thinking more about this issue. I have been reflecting on why it’s so hard to really share true feelings when they are, indeed, not cheery ones. This recently hit hard when I was with a group of survivors. Two new women asked me about the support group I attend. One told me that she found it hardest to really talk to the two people closest to her. Although this did not surprise me, I must admit hearing it so plainly blew me away. Think about that statement. Does it also hit you hard, too??
I think this issue applies to any person going through a serious, traumatic event. So, I’m hoping this post is reaching those, too. (Send it on, please). That’s why we have coined popular phrases like “he’s in a better place.” Think of all the times you’ve acted as if everything is going great mainly because you know that’s what the person asking wants to hear. Why do we do that?? Are we afraid they will not be there if we are honest? Is it embarrassing and uncomfortable? Are you worried that they may not understand? Now, change roles…why do we put on the cheerful face when others try to express their true feelings? Have you ever dismissed a concern? I am certainly guilty here. Ever heard anyone say they couldn’t remember things anymore or complain about something and you
responded that you forget all the time, etc?
Or, maybe, as a cancer survivor, you feel guilty complaining because you are ALIVE and you have known so many others that deserve to be and are not. Just telling it like it is…
And, just in case you wanted to know….I am tired of feeling tired, of my legs hurting, these darn GI problems and feeling a little blue lately 🙂
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